If you are determined to free your heart from former love, this item will be almost 50% success. Despite the desire to get in touch on a social network, make a call or appear in any other way in the field of view of this person, it is absolutely impossible to act in this way. After all, then feelings will flare up with even greater force - due to the fact that he or she has now become inaccessible to you. Think about whether you want to torture yourself even more in order to eventually become a patient in a psychiatric clinic?
Fill your life with people
Those who try to stop loving, often make the same mistake: they lock themselves in, sit at home, grind endlessly memories of a beautiful or not very past, and some in these cases even begin to abuse alcohol. Since both unnecessary suffering and treatment for alcoholism are most likely not included in your plans, try to diversify your life as much as possible.
Get new social connections, renew old ones. After all, often one of the best consolations can be a friendly shoulder or even communication with strangers. Communicate at every opportunity - let people always surround you: at work, study or rest. If your schedule does not have a moment of loneliness, then there will be no time to yearn for unfulfilled dreams.
As often as possible think about this person in a negative way
What bad happened when you were together? What events helped to highlight the negative traits of his character most vividly? What about physical disabilities? Every time, as soon as a wave of pity rolls over you about past relationships, try to repulse her in the form of the most vivid memory of the shortcomings of this person.
Indeed, in the world there are neither saints nor perfect ones - everyone chooses the one with whom it would be more convenient and happier to live with. And if you understand that the person to whom you have feelings so far is not able to satisfy your needs, then it's time to think about its disadvantages. Since stopping loving a person who does not love you is a sacred matter, you should not have guilty feelings. Remember at least the biblical "treat your neighbor as you want them to treat you." Justice is exactly what should make you soberly face the truth and not be afraid even to acknowledge all his or her shortcomings inside yourself.
Start dreaming about a new chosen one or chosen one
The more attractive the other person is to you, the more effective this method. As for this point, a whole range of actions can be taken here - from dates with new potential candidates for a lover's place to simple dreams of better days with a better person. In the first case, such "therapy" may be most effective. However, here you must adhere to the golden rule: do not rush into the pool with your head. Such meetings for the most part can only serve as a distraction for you. It is very easy to break firewood without understanding the old problems.
In the second version of this method, you have great potential. After all, you can dream about anyone - even if it will be the image of a new mysterious stranger from the pages of the magazine. The main thing here is to intensely nourish your brain with information about new potential relationships, to reassure him with the opportunity to get the necessary love again. The more convincing these testimonies, the faster the cure for old wounds.
You can also help yourself get rid of suffering by transforming your environment. Apartment renovation, changing jobs, updating the wardrobe - all these actions will help to start life as soon as possible from scratch. If there is the possibility of moving, do not refuse this option, even if it is moving to another city.
If there is absolutely no strength to change something in the environment, you can, on the contrary, put yourself in a new environment - with the help of travel. The effectiveness of this method is based on the needs of the brain for new experiences. New places, people, at least the color of the wallpaper - all this provides additional informational food for the brain and helps to resist depression.
It is very difficult to forget a departed love, especially when there is an influx of emotions and memories, and all efforts to free oneself from feelings seem to be in vain. However, it is not. Once you have let loose all the suffering, with determination, take up the transformation of your life again. The night is darkest just before dawn - so stock up on courage, and then unnecessary suffering will soon give way to a new love.
How to stop loving a person
This article is co-written by Klare Heston, LICSW. Claire Heston is an independent clinical social worker from Ohio. She received a master's degree in social work from the University of Virginia in 1983.
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Love is beautiful, but sometimes it only hurts, and does not make us happy. You may have experienced a severe break or suffer from unrequited love. This experience is rather painful, and most likely you are wondering how to forget about failures and become a happy person again. You can stop loving a person if you stop seeing him, learn to cope with sadness and move forward.